This article is co-written by Klare Heston, LICSW. Claire Heston is an independent clinical social worker from Ohio. She received a master's degree in social work from the University of Virginia in 1983.
The number of sources used in this article is 10. You will find a list of them at the bottom of the page.
Opening up to people can be scary. And it can be even worse if you are rejected by the guy you like. However, you can’t just sit and pity yourself forever, especially if you can’t avoid meeting with him in the future. Give yourself a little time to recover from the refusal, and with a little effort on your part, you can continue to communicate with him as if nothing had happened.
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Shenderova Elena Sergeevna
Hello, Nastya! You still did NOT reject him - all that motivated you THEN is the fear of rejection on his part! and now you are also allowing your fear to restrain yourself again - by inventing some strange restrictions for yourself - but how does HE know how you feel about him. he really knows how to read minds. NO! open yourself to him - just voice what motivated you really - don't have to invent anything - tell the truth - that you were afraid, you were inexperienced, you were afraid that he would reject you - which you are afraid now! just be YOURSELF - let him know YOU! but - and to him to make a choice - he is free to accept you, and free to reject. and this is also NOT a reason to constantly sit and be afraid - you need to learn to accept what gives the lives and feelings of other people the same!
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Golysheva Evgeniya Andreevna
Nastya, do not blame yourself. His attention was very important for you, you had no experience in relationships, naturally, you were scared - you simply did not know how to behave. This happens often with many girls. Primary fear of communication is difficult to overcome, but not impossible!
Write to him, of course, even if this does not lead to a stormy romance, learn to communicate with the opposite sex. Try to interest him, don’t give up, don’t think about the impression made. Ask questions, joke, think in advance what to tell him about your life so that it is interesting.
Do not be afraid when you need to start, in the end, right?
Golysheva Evgeniya Andreyevna, psychologist Moscow